It’s important to get yourself and your kids out of there ASAP. I just learned they share the same bed him and I are intimate in. If I say anything then is mad. :-)" Claudia G. had a similar experience: "I have a 13-year-old who slept with me until he was 10, now he's Mr. What about a father spending the night at his 19 year old daughters house that lives the next city over? I knew he was ok. Be honest. Or, on the flipside, how does a co-sleeper go to a friend’s for a sleepover? Doug, you must not have a lot experience with the world then, parents can have sex with each other outside of “bed time” and away from their child(ren) at the same time. As a father with a co-sleeping child in the house (not by my own choice and I strongly wish it were not true) I might have some insight. Lol. It’s hard. Just give us a break…and no, my child doesnt sleep with me…but cant stand judgemental people …wondering if you guys are so perfect and yoyr lives are so perfect…. I refuse to let him live with us after high school. Just does what he wants when he wants and no respect for authority. Why do none of the pro co-sleeping paents discuss developmental, psychological, emotional impacts (present & future) on the child? We are not to let our children be that dividing line between our spouses. This is abusive, period. As long as we are alone in the house, we just bath. I agree with you. I am engaged to a woman that lets her 10 year old son sleep with her regularly or if it’s windy or if it’s storming, because he is so scared. My life isn’t confusing, your way of thinking is. She could not even enjoy her beach trip with her aunt because she didn’t have her Daddy in the bed with her. HE IS 10. Of the night. I have a 49 year old boyfriend with a 17 yr old daughter who has the mentality of a 12 year old. But eventually, the time does come when every child needs his own bed — and when parents need theirs back. :). Do What's Best For You and Your Partner. Thank You. Just learned this and will not be allowing any more visits. I left for uni when I was 17 and up until that time, sleeping in bed with him was very normal for me. But once maybe twice a month he does sleep with me. Neither has had or has “Mental problems” a learning disability or problems in relationships. They would let me sleep in the guest bedroom, we would play together, or occasionally go out to eat. Why on Earth would anyone put a 13 year old girl and 15 year old boy in the same room? I don’t have my own child i need to worry for. But when my 11 year son went for a sleepover his friends mother co sleeps and she did when my son was there in the bed . Hes not a baby any more and I cant keep treating him like one. All I can say is I hope the boyfriend wises up and kicks you to the curb. It will help them grow better and feel the love and warmth. Every family has a different arrangement and set up in place. But be respectable or keep your 2 cents to yourself. My daughter and sone in law have allowed my granddaughter to sleep with them since birth. He is practically an only child because his siblings are grown and out of the house. I won’t let weakminded spoilt brats of nowadays dictate how I live my life. I would love some input on this situation. Ok then you are one weirdo! 9 out of 10 of his friends have or continue to cosleep. The kid has his own room, so they call it his room, but all his belongings are still in their room and he is afraid to sleep in his room. To me this is weird. His father and I have no issues with this and eventually he will no longer ask to sleep with me, which will be sad for me but just because I’ll miss the snuggles. Aren’t you afraid they’ll live with you forever because they know no other way? When are kids simply too old to sleep with mom and dad? There is no right or wrong way. I agree with your statement. My son is 7 now and starts in his own bed and almost always comes In ours in the middle My son 11 and daughter 15 and we all enjoy with my wife. Made me have issues see I fell off the bed at very young age so I got smothered. Does your partner know how you feel? Men are frowned on to co-sleep with their daughters and likewise should be for women with sons, at this age. I see both sides, especially because of my son’s health issues. I told my hubby let the dog sleep in the room with him! Why not you ask? She’s 3 & he’s 1 1/2. So hard to watch this permissive, spoiled behavior. So deciding when a child is too old to sleep with mom and dad becomes a judgment call. Of course I would never want to sexualize anything but I know how men CAN wake up (not always) and it creeps me out to think he’s waking up with my daughter. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. The rest of us in the family think it’s totally weird and that my sister and her husband are doing major damage to my nephew. So if parent are comfortable with being naked then kids will also follow suit and think positive about it. I have a friend (girl) that sleeps with her mother in bed and she is 35. I have the same situation. Roxanne F. brought the issue of her "disapproving husband" to the Circle of Moms communities and got some great advice. They will be having sex in 4-6 years. Schooles have been closed for over 2 months and he loves the heck out of it. Seriously, grow up a bit. @2018 - Professor's House. Help? At what age should a child no longer sleep in their parents' bed? 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I repeatedly asked for my own bed and was put off or told things like “it would break up the furniture set,” which struck me as trivial and a bad reason to not change things. I have a 7 year old son who I have been trying to get out of my bed for 4 years now. He does no chores. I’m an 11 year old and I still sleep with a special stuffed animal and a special blanket but sometimes I can’t sleep so I go get in bed with my mom idk why I just can help it, My 13 year old sleeps in my bed every night he’s at my house. So we co slept often so I could be aware of his status. She’s 11 his 56. Why are they chosing? He begs us every night to sleep with us saying He doesn’t like being alone. I see most of you are women and you think it’s “ok” it my child and how dare you judge me. We don’t mind him sleeping with us. Some kids still sleep with a stuffed toy or a blanket, they don’t let their friends know that either. It’s either go away to college, or join the military… He will not be living and sleeping with his mother. He may also feel very secure in your relationship and may just assume you share the same feelings. This trend cannot continue as a boy matures and hits puberty. If they can't sleep without their parents their friendship activities become limited. Sleeping with a teen or pretten child is simply selfish. When your kids are young, the convenience and security of the family bed can easily outweigh the negatives. My boyfriend seem to think that it is okay to sleep with his 9 year old daughter. In my strongest conviction, allowing this to continue, you replace the connection that should be growing with your spouse with your child. Yes I do find it unusually unfortunately I can already see signs of anxiety for the kid maybe even insomnia. and what can be done. You can get in big trouble if one is found in private areas. It strongly depends on the relationship you have to your child. Yet if he wakes up, here he comes. Or the camp counselor? Children are conceived in this sacred place of marriage. I could see if it was a one bedroom house and no other bed or bedroom existed, but at age 13 you can’t sleep on your own you will never be independent and mature. responsible? And why would she? . Sadly it makes me not really look forward to him coming because I know it’s hands of and separate sleeping for us. Though the most recent safe sleep guidelines suggest that parents share a room with their little ones until they're at least 6 months old, a new study finds that might not be the best thing for either baby or the rest of the family.. Last October, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) released updated recommendations suggesting … I’m up because my 11 year old son woke me up twice. I have read a lot of information that is available in print and on the web regarding co-sleeping. He was diagnosed as a type-1 diabetic at age 3 yrs old. And he hasn’t even learn to sleep in his own bed yet?! I told him about her not feeling good, and that his kids, especially his 11 year old daughter had slept with us nemerous times, but my 7 year old daughter couldn’t!!!! I told BOTH of them someone needs to sleep on the couch and when he told her to do it, she cried and came into his room anyway like a 2 year old. He does not come into our room in the middle of the night. She’s fifteen. . No one should be judging as they have not lived in anyone else’s shoes. But as a child it was very hurting for me to be asked to sleep alone when during those days i didn’t have mobile phone, laptop or too much of homework or friends to keep me busy. What do you want me to do? He’s getting big. You are parents & your children’s brains aren’t fully develpied until their 21. Mom & dad are not married or living together. What if you want to have sex with the other parent? And subsequently, it turns bonding moments and co-sleeping into an issue of sexuality. Snuggle time is not something your child should need at age 8, 9 or 10. Don’t damage your children. I would ask for us to move so I could have my own room; maybe it was because they did not have enough money as we lived in NYC and there was rent control on the apartment. You are asking for trouble. I agree my boyfriend of 2 yrs 11 almost 12 yr old son when I am not there he sleeps with his Dad on the weekends and Holidays and often will say please do not come over tonight its our bonding time .. Lays on top of him on the lay back chair. Insight please…, I also think the same way. And I mean none. Cheshire reloaded. I see this situation with my sister and her almost 13 year old son. It’s going to end our relationship. But of course the earlier you set your boundaries the better off you will be. Does anyone know the resources on this article? Do u cuddle, wake up wrapped around your 12 year old? If you do. I also don’t think it is healthy to keep interrupting his sleep every night to move to his own bed. He approaches the topic reasonably, not saying which is the best parenting strategy, and simply states the observed effects. He is now 20 and cant keep a job. The Bible says marriage is honerable and the bed undefined… it is for married husbands and wives. He will not give her a second to herself, which is true, he can not do anything by himself or entertain himself in any way when she is around. According to Parenting's MomConnection, a surprising 45% of moms let their 8- to 12-year-olds sleep with them from time to time, and 13% permit it every night. A study out of the University of Michigan showed that children who slept with their parents beyond the age of 2 many into the preteen years, were developmentally stunted and even faced years and years of sleep issues later in life. You don’t go playing with your friends and come in crying when the neighbour’s own child is giving you hard times, no. If he is a good man that cares about your feelings, he will understand and try to make adjustments to make sure all those who are close to him, his partner (you) and his kids, feel loved and appreciated. Even slept with him durring holidays when I had plenty of time away from uni. If you're wondering when this day should arrive in your home, or how to make the transition, here are three helpful suggestions — gathered from moms who fall on both sides of the family bed debate. Get those kids out of your bed before they reach double digits! But there is consensus on one point: that age can be different for each child. More than a father daughter relationship. I think passing judgement on someone else’s family dinamic is more disturbing than a child sleeping with their parent. he is an only child and so was she. Our son does have boundary issues in my opinion and is severely dependent on his mother. Just another way to alienate them from their dad. We would cuddle up and watch tv, I would lay my head on his chest and dose off so quick. Eating from his plate. My stepdaughter (almost 10 years old) sleeps in my husband’s bed whenever she is at his house unless I’m staying there that night. There are tons of families who fall asleep in the same bed watching television every night. I’ve seen it so many times. IF that is the case, stop co sleeping before the child is four. What do you think? That’s ridiculous for anyone other than you and him to be in that bed. I don’t feel hindered by the action, and I feel it just brought us closer. I don’t need need to defend myself to you. From my side, i am heartbroken and alone, from their side, they dont even notice i there. In her response on the issue, Becky H. agrees that co-sleeping is "nothing to worry about" with young children, and paraphrases the perspective of her state's social services agency: "when the male child begins to show interest (like mommy is different than me) or [is] beginning to be curious about his own gender (why does my friend not sleep in his mommy's bed? My son never slept in his crib, was nursed, and now dreads sleeping by himself. He was my daddy, and the time we had together will always be kept very close to heart. But make sure you tell him what’s wrong before you leave him. Is up to families how they whanna leave their live. (I have seen this to vary depending on the personality of the child but it is generally true.). I have read about legal problems in this area including criminal investigation. Now the son cant sleep. Thanks. I guess I’m a bad grandparent but I just will not agree to this. Some people don’t have a clue of what the word Structure for a child means! She has already lost custody of her older son for indulging and not disciplining him and is devastated. We had sex away from them without issue. Not exactly where you want to sleep, a stinky 11 year old boys bed! Pamela W. adds that you should not use your child to replace having a partner in bed: "you may want to consider what it may mean for YOUR dependency on his company in bed, and go from there in whatever choice you make. When they stay at Grandma’s, does she let her pubescent grandson stay in bed with her??? ", If you are stuck in the middle between a disapproving partner and a kid who refuses to sleep without you, Tricia K. suggests adding a sleep place for your child in your room: "My son is two and he has his own bed on the floor of our bedroom. I’m 13 and this may sound weird coming from a teenager but I haven’t been able to sleep lately, and then I go and wake up my mum and dad and see if I can sleep with them. I believe that a child should sleep alone at the age of 4 or 5. And now I’m a Nudist so old lol. My mum and sister say that once she becomes a teen she won’t want to sleep with her dad and will find the idea icky. Our co-sleeper sleeps with other kids when they are around instead of with Mom. I would have to say that is concerning. I really need help on how I can change, but I can’t have my own room nor can I have my own bed. I mean is it really necessary in the bedroom of all places, these people don’t actually care about the kids or they would never subject them to this passed a maximum of 1-2 years old. He’s even gone in there to sleep, but then ten minutes later he’s back in our bed. Others say they start feeling less at ease when children become more aware, curious, and questioning about physical differences, often at around age 2 or 3. Once child knows difference between 2 sexes they shouldn’t see their parents naked at all. As long as there is no sexual actions, no problem. Or camp? Their needs to be limits. When his son is with us, I have to sleep in another room so he can sleep with his dad. I lay on the floor until he falls asleep. You’re the parents that’s your child… during normal awake times is when you show your child affection not during sleeping hours. if your child sleeps with you you than you should put them to bed by themselves when they turn @ least 5. My step-son resents me because when I am gone he gets his way; when I am home he feels I take his place. He is just used to and comfortable with going to sleep w Mommy while we are home. You should not “snuggle” your child at that age while sleeping…that is the martial bed not the community sleeping grounds. Now she is even worse with giving this younger child anything he wants. That is right you can’t because the kid is in your bed. “This is not to say that the cuddling isn’t mutually enjoyable for parents and kids. We have a German shepherd dog that we own. How to stop co-sleeping with your newborn to 18-month-old The good news is your baby’s sleep habits are still highly adaptable at this age, but to train your infant to be comfortable in their own bassinet or crib, you’ll need to be consistent about making sure that all sleep happens in that space. Actually, he is a very well-behaved, independent child and he does do chores and has redponsibilities. I threatened to break up with him if this continues, he swears he will sleep on the couch which I believe he will but the whole idea of her wanting to sleep where we have sex is just wrong to me. explain to his/her friend that they will be going to sleep with mommy while their friend sleeps alone? He has to be next to me in order to go to sleep. We were very close, and I absolutely adored my dad and am extremely grateful for everything he’s done for me and for all the time we got to spend together. I was 10 years old when my mom Lolita Bronson from Fresno California that’s her name asked me to start sleeping with her my mom had just divorce my dad I suggest you don’t do it things start happening . They just turned 6. 7months pregnant!! So, though there are clearly some differences, you are not completely alone. I mean come on what gives already? Already talked about your family drama so pushing it on a kid. Parent’s talk.) Circle of Moms member Leea S. feels that single moms should consider the impact it could have on your child if you do begin an intimate relationship down the road: "Do you kick your child out of your bed now that you have a new spouse to share your bed? But, I don’t think as she gets older, she will want to share her space. You shouldn’t pass judgment on others just because it’s different from what you did. I’m that sort of parent, if a child trips on his/her own feet and starts crying, the look they get from me is enough to make them wish they never came into this world in the first place. My father-in-law broke his arm and is sleeping in a recliner in the living room since the amroundndccident roughly a month and a half ago and then four days ago we found out that my wife’s youngest sister was asked to abandon her own bed and bedroom and to sleep with her mother, which she was fully delighted to do. Save your children people. Then go buy hidden cameras. I felt a bit weird, but It also was amazing feeling my young boys warmth, both of them close to me,pressed to me. And before you say, yes my son is now seeing a therapist. Wow, where does the line get drawn?? Nice parenting, lots of love in that house. They act like boyfriend and girlfriend. We read to him which he LOVES, then we sing him a song. You’re uncomfortable with sleeping with someone’s child………….. so it’s not about the “co-sleeping” but that it’s not your own. When he has friends over for a sleepover he sleeps in his room and pretends that that is his room the whole time. (p.s. Sorry to add more, but I forgot to add this.. she is NOT able to sleep with her mom and her moms boyfriend because she is too old, and also has to do dishes, sweep, and do other chores at her mom’s, as well as her little brother… I just don’t get why her dad is this way?!? I think its sick. You should go sleep in another room and let them bond if that’s what the son and father want. How has it turned out? Create that separation in bed. Then tells her to come into bed 30 mins later when I have gone into the other room. How can i explain to them that it is unhealthy. So, I think this May last at the most till she’s around 13. After reading everyone and the article…ummm i say be a parent not a friend. My daughter is going to have a tough time ending this with my granddaughter. If he even mowed the lawn once per year, that was all he did and you would have thought he’d painted the Sistine Chapel over how she raved over his efforts. I was, and still am, terrified that he will die in his sleep. Until I was about 12 I would often sleep over with a friend of his when he was away for work. In our case the mother is a child therapist & during the divorce began sleeping with the oldest from 10 yrs to almost 13. He still has the same issue. Don’t know what to do about this situation? Should a pubescent boy who wakes up every morning with an erection, be sleeping next to his mother? i am so sorry this happened to you. Kids who sleep with parents in the same bed always have mental issues as they get older and they are very obviously messed up and usually just they get diagnosed with some learning disability, but it’s usually the parents fault this happens. This not only cause arguments between us but puts my 16 year old out of her room with no where to sleep. he was even using our master bathroom when he and his 14 year old sister have their own, and the extra bathroom was always available. PS: the mom has anger issues & was a spouse beater. And obviously, a 10 year old in the bed is quite a hindrance to martial intimacy. Honestly thank you ! Hi, I just had to weigh in and tell my story. We have only been dating for 5 months, and when I would stay over there not to long after we got together, he would even let his daughter sleep with us. I was baffled.. Plenty of bedrooms and beds. Probably won’t want to take out the tray or Ave any responsibility either! ( WHAT ) does everyone thinks here of my ex wife sleeping with my son that is 11yrs old sleeping in the same bed in the nude both don’t wear cloths is this natural or is it consider child abuse? I can’t even imagine what it was like to be in your situation; I fear I would have become violent. If leave his ass. What if your child has or goes on sleep-over, goes to camp, or goes on a trip with a friend’s family??? I find this not healthy for us as a couple so as important as his Son is Our relationship has had its time of strange allowances time for moving on . When we go camping he sleeps in his own hammock or his own “room”if we use our tent. Not to mention, the resentment your child will likely carry for the person taking their place in your bed. The next day you can tell he is exhausted, and looks very nervous and panicky. He has her and her younger brother on weekends. Touches her every time he goes past her. To each family, their own. Hes 19 now. my twins just turned 12 and I had a long talk with them and set a date for them to sleep in their own bed, no matter what. I’m not one to tell parents on how to raise their children but am unsure how to go about talking to her about Allowing the co sleeping and what effects it’s having on his and her relationship. My great grand daughter sleeps just with her dad. My daughter, recently divorced, sleeps with her 9 year old son in her so comfy bed. He had a crib but it was never used. Guide them, parent them, they are looking to you for that!!!! However, it is slightly disturbing to understand WHY an older child would still WANT to sleep with their parents. Cracker Jacks? Should I continue co-sleeping with my 9-year-old son? Bad parenting and not letting kids grow up and coddling them more than necessary. But it’s nice for us to get a little time for me to hug him close. This boys mother would rather appease him than deal with the fussing. I think he knows it’s strange to him after a few minutes and be gets up and goes to his own bed. How can the child move forward in life with independence. Before I do this again, I just wanted other people’s opinions? When we have him for the weekend we can’t even touch or hold hands in front of him. Or does the other child get invited into the bed too, only to return home the next day & tell his/her parents?? It was always weird, but I never said anything.. but one night, while me and my kids were over his place to stay the night, my 7 year old daughter started crying and not feeling good, and asked to sleep with us. In India, most children share the bed with their parents … If there's a magic age at which kids should be in their own beds, moms can't agree on it. And 9/10 I tell him I love him but he needs to sleep in his room. I know this is true because I lived there for years. …now you see how this selfish/convenient behavior of parenting has mentally injured this child. You need a degree DeeDee and I’m sure CPS has already been to your house several times.. Humorous that the intelligence level is sooooo loooowwww and nauseating. I am a single dad of two little 6 year old boys who are very energetic. They need to get it. What have I not yet considered to help resolve this issue? At what age should children stop cosleeping/bed sharing with parents? There is a difference in a child’s emotional need across different nations, because of the way of living, difference in technology adoption, and other differences. He tell her for my ears only. I mean, he was a great dad , and that’s why I liked him in the first place, because I also have 2 children. I understand if the child is having a nightmares or is physically sick. These are little things that children carry with them for security. As an educator I feel it’s very important for 11 year old children to have their own bed , space and sleep in it , to enabling their social and emotional development. If he wants something he demands it and she gets it for him. Like the article says. I have family member who sleeps with HER 15year old son. My wife will not compromise and will not set a deadline to move her son permanently into his own bed. That makes my skin crawl!! He has got her every second weekend. It will be your fault as you failed to be a parent. Advice needed my soon to be x girl of 5 years sleeps with her son who is 27 she’s 47 I think it’s sick he even calls her mummy still when I stay there and were in bed sometimes naked now it’s fully clothed for me he just walks in the bedroom no knock or shout are you decent just walks in even sits on the bed whilst were in it if I go the loo when I get back he’s in bed with her I think it’s sick wrong they think it’s all fine and there’s nothing wrong with it what do you think HELP!!! I think there’s a time and place for everything there’s a time for your children to go to bed in their own rooms and then there is a time where you and your significant other need your space together without the children being there and renewing that intimacy and bond. She can not leave the room without him. This is sad and creepy. Teach them everything is ok The views expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily represent the views of, and should not be attributed to, POPSUGAR. But, when I was growing up, my best friends dad would occasionally let his younger daughter sleep with him and as a kid, I thought that was strange because my relationship with my father wasn’t healthy. Last yesr3i bought a bed w trundle and he and i fall asleep in his room. If he doesn’t wake up, he stays in his room! You will sleep in your bed, in your own room little fella, even if there’s a monster in there. Would you let them shower with you as well. Should I allow is to break up my marriage and be better off alone? Call him sexy when he gets dressed up. Hi Missy – Other wise any other room is safe. He also has no problem sleeping outside of our home. 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